How to create an effective relationship

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties' feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party's needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party's feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say 'No man is an Island'.

Romantic shot

One of my students is going to get married this October, and although she is a Taiwanese, She and her husband-to-be is currently working in China. I so admire my student and her boyfriend because they showed a lot of signs of how they are deeply in love. The couples seems to love each other so much with this pre-nup picture so sweet and romantic

My friend

I went to my old friend last Tuesday. She and her husband were my really good friends over the years. Her husband was my hubby's best friend. I miss them so much! i really wanted to tell them everything about what's going on to our lives. I love to talk to them and i admire them so much because they have been together for so many years and they never had any major problems with each other. Until i found out that her husband is having an affair. I'm still thinking if i should tell it right away or should i wait?

Loving the married life?

Having a married life is fun and challenging at times, having kids is such a blessing. We often talk, fight, cry, laugh and love with our husbands and wives. WE always make sure that we only give the best for our children and serving and loving the only one person who made our life beautiful and worth living.But there were times that it's not always going the way we planned it. There are trials that test our relationship with our better half. I heard so many relationships that won't lasts a year or two or sometimes even months, why? Because they are lacking the love and communication, and oh patience too.

In married life we need to always give and take. It's not always you or her/him. It's about "us" being one being together, again, united as one person. If you think that you have problems, you can always seek for help and our ask for advices from other older couples. You can even join groups or even try to visit some Married Chat Room, Having someone to talk too, sharing experiences, giving and accepting ideas and opinions can actually help ease the pain if you have problems, and help you get some answers if you do have some questions. You can try to visit marriedchatcity.com

This site offers a 100% free registration, you can always have free chat with other married couples, share stories, asked questions anything under the sun. We can always find a friend in everyone.

My 2nd grade teacher is still beautiful.

Last saturday, I went back to my old house. Because i have to attend a wedding of an old friend. I went with my aunt and mt brother as well as her girlfriend. I wasn't really expecting anyone to see. I just want to see how my old place looks now.

And so I was there. There's a lot of changes of course, I was happy to see similar faces, I was young then and everyone seems to be very old LOL! Well, I am too. So when we arrived at the church wedding it was really nice seeing some good ol' friends. Ans guess what?!! I saw my 2nd grade teacher. She was older now of course, but she still pretty.

I waited for about an hour just to approach her, I wanted to tell her that I was one of her students ages ago. I was thinking of telling her how surprised and glad i am to see her. And when I finally had a chance, I told her " Hello Mrs. David, I'm ....." And she said "AYbi" Whoah! I was very surprised.!
I knew that she had hundreds of students and there was no way that she would remember each one of them, or would she? Yes, she remembered me, and she knows me. That day is like one of my most unforgettable days of my life.

I felt really good... Thanks Ma'am!You really made my day!